Sunday, June 18, 2000

Missing dad on Father’s Day

The Sunday Star

IN HAPPIER TIMES... Tan's children organised a grand birthday dinner bash for him on his 80th birthday.
It has been almost a month since Roger Tan's father went missing. On this Father's Day, the family is appealing to the public to help their father find his way home, writes IVY SOON.

It was not the first time that Roger Tan had received a call telling him that his elderly father was missing. However, over the last two years, residents in Yong Peng, Johor had always brought his father home safely.

“Almost everyone in Yong Peng has brought my father home at one time or another,” says Roger. “Last month, however, no one stopped to offer him a ride home.”

Since May 23, the family has been looking tirelessly for his father, Tan Sue Yong, 83, who has Alzheimer’s disease and suffers from dementia.

On the night that Tan went missing, Roger’s family and friends, as well as Rela members, combed the jungle around Yong Peng in vain until four in the morning.

“My father used to work in the jungle, clearing it on contract basis. He is familiar with the jungle, and regards it as a second home. He usually likes to wander into the jungle because he feels at home there,” says the 38-year-old lawyer.

Tan was spotted at the pasar malam and a supermarket in town. A salesgirl told Roger’s family later that she helped to test a clock for a white-haired, elderly man.

It was not the first time that Tan had failed to come home. He went missing for several days two years ago.

Have you seen him?

TAN has white hair, is five feet four inches, and was wearing a short sleeved grey shirt and brown pants when he left home. He can only speak Hockchew.

If you see Tan, please take him to the nearest police station. Call the Yong Peng police station at 07-4671222 or the head of rescue operations at 019-7651289.

For the latest update on the searc for tan, go to the website

“That time, he was out riding his motorbike. A good samaritan found him wandering about in Malacca and took him home. Until today, we have no idea how he managed to ride all the way from Yong Peng to Malacca on his 20-year-old motorbike,” recalls Roger. It usually takes about an hour by car from Yong Peng to Malacca.

Since that incident, Roger and his family had removed the motorcycle. They also began to take steps to cope with Tan’s deteriorating memory after doctors verified that he has Alzheimer’s disease and suffers from dementia.

“We were told that we had two options; to put him under medication or keep him as comfortable as possible in a familiar surrounding. We tried putting him on medication but it made him drowsy and robbed him of his ability to care for himself. Other side effects included hallucinations.

“So, we opted instead to let him remain in Yong Peng where he lives with my mother and a maid. We tried bringing him to live with the children, but he gets agitated. He always insisted on going home to Yong Peng,” says Roger, who also points out that they had to respect their father’s views.

Dementia aside, Tan is otherwise hale and hearty. He has trouble remembering the present, but his memory of past events is vivid. Last Easter, says Roger, he was able to recite a poem that a priest had taught him over 70 years ago in his church in China.

At other times, he cannot even recognise his six children and 15 grandchildren although they take turns to visit Tan and his wife every week.

Confining Tan in the house was never an option, says Roger, because his father likes to keep active. Tan’s life has been one of hard toil and sweat.

“He worked hard to raise us; clearing the jungle was hard work. Even when we were very poor, we knew that our father was determined to give us the best education he could afford. His one regret was that he did not further his studies.”

Tan who came from China in 1947, was a dutiful father and was determined to bring his children up well. When Roger was naughty, Tan would beat him in front of his other siblings. But later at night, he would ask Roger where it hurt and apply balm to his wounds.

“He only retired at 70. Even after that, he continued to work in his rubber estate. We told him that he should take it easy in his golden years; to go to the coffee shop and chat with his friends,” Roger recounts.

Tan was, however, not inclined to remain idle. He would go for walks twice or three times a day. Sometimes, he would ramble in the jungle, perhaps because it reminded him of working in his rubber plantation.

After the Malacca episode, Tan’s children tried to prevent him from wandering out on his own. They locked the gate, but Tan used a ladder to climb out. They took away the ladder, but Tan shook the gates and threw a tantrum.

Fiercely independent, he would not even allow the maid to accompany him.

Once, Roger’s sister-in-law warned Tan that he would get lost again. He just shrugged and said he could find his way home with his eyes closed, and if he could not, “it’s fated.”

Since their father’s disappearance was publicised in the newspapers, Roger Tan’s family has received many telephone calls. Some of the callers have provided crucial information on his father’s movements since his disappearance.

The day after he went missing, Tan was reportedly spotted at a poultry farm in Jalan Labis. They searched in that area until one in the morning, but their efforts proved futile.

Two days later, a neighbour saw Tan wandering about in a deserted housing estate. He was next seen getting off a lorry at a palm oil estate about 12km from Yong Peng. A guard saw him walking into the estate.

Again, Roger’s family and field force members with tracker dogs went in to search for Tan. Again, their efforts came to naught.

“My father was last see boarding a bus from Johor Baru to Air Itam on May 27. He has no money with him, and left home only with his identity card.

“He could be travelling from town to town. He might not even realise that he is lost. He might be thinking that he is back in his younger days in China, happily travelling from one town to another,” says Roger with a rueful laugh.

The police, hospitals, RELA, MCA members, Council of Churches, the Boys and Girls brigade, have all been alerted about Tan’s disappearance. Yong Peng residents are also on the lookout for him.

“Many have come forward to help us. We thank all of them, especially Datuk Ong Ka Ting, Datuk Chua Jui Meng, Johor chief police officer Datuk Zulkipli Mat Noor and Perak chief police officer Datuk Mariman Mohd Taib,” says Roger.

Others have been more unscrupulous, preying on Roger’s family’s anxiety and fears. One caller insisted that their father had been murdered, his arms and legs amputated, and stowed away in a coffeeshop somewhere.

“We did not believe that caller because we were sure that such a find would not go unnoticed. The police would have notified us,” says Roger, who has led the tireless search for his father.

Roger’s family has also been besieged by crank calls, some offering tip-offs they could not afford to ignore. Hence, in their desperation and vulnerability, the family has been led on a wild goose chase. One led them to Ipoh, and another to searching through a cemetery after midnight.

Roger stresses that his family is not rich; “We are an average family like most,” he says.

Despite such unpleasant incidents, the family has faith in the public’s goodwill and kindness.

With well-wishers’ help, Roger’s family pooled their resources to place full-page advertisements in major newspapers yesterday to appeal to the public to help bring Tan home for Father’s Day.

“He is our father, and we love him. We have to keep looking for him no matter what.”

Roger believes his father is most probably lost in cities or towns. “He could have wandered into the jungle, but by now someone would have found him because there are workers going in everyday.”

“We think that our father is lost in towns and cities where people are too busy to bother with an old man. On Father’s Day, we are appealing to everyone to please help look out for him. He can only speak Hockchew.”

“If you see a bewildered old man alone, please do not dismiss him as insane. He could be suffering from dementia, and cannot remember who he is and where he is from. Please approach him and help him,” appeals Roger.

Sue Yong’s children await his early return

ON STAND BY...Volunteers manning at the Larkin bus terminal on the lookout for Sue Yong.
New Straits Times

JOHOR BARU. Sat – Lawyer Roger Tan’s wish is to be reunited with his father and to throw in a big feast on Father’s Day tomorrow.

But with the whereabouts of his missing father still unknown, chances of such a happy reunion are getting remote.

Undaunted, Tan has started mobilising non-governmental organisations, religious institutions and individuals to look out for his 83-year-old father, Sue Yong, who went missing from his Yong Peng home on May 23.

His disappearance was advertised in several newspapers today.

Tan said he would co-ordinate the search operations in Johor Baru while his five sisters and brother would do the same in other districts in Johor, Malacca and Kuala Lumpur.

The siblings will be at bus terminals as Sue Yong was reportedly sighted on express buses and at bus stations on a number of occasions recently.

“Never had he (Sue Yong) left us for so long. We are very concerned about him, especially for the fact that he did not take his medicine (for high blood pressure) for nearly a month,” he said today.

“While we continue to keep our fingers crossed, our wish is to find him latest by tomorrow, as we want to celebrate Father’s Day with him in our hometown (Yong Peng).”

Sue Yong, who is suffering from dementia and Alzheimer’s disease, went for a walk on May 23 and has not returned home since.

The man left home wearing a short-sleeved greyish white shirt and a brown pair of trousers.

He was reported to have been spotted by an express bus driver in Larkin on June 13.

Prior to that, he was said to have been spotted in Lucky Garden in Yong Peng, and Taman Melor and Taman Johor in Johor Baru.

Tan believed that his father was trying to find the way home.

“I believe that my father is still alive. It is a matter of time before we find him,” he said.

Meanwhile, Tan appealed to certain people to stop making crank calls which only added more misery to his family.

Those with information on Sue Yong can contact the Yong Peng police station at tel: 07-4761222, or Tan at 019-7651289.

Father’s Day worry for Malaysian family

Singapore New Paper

Dad, where are you?

DESPERATELY SEEKING: The full-page ad in Malaysia's New Straits Times looking for Mr Tan Sue Yong.For many families, today comes with a special meal and presents - to honour the man of the house.

But for one family in Malaysia, it will be yet another day fraught with worry.

Their father, Tan Sue Yong, 83, is missing. He suffers from Alzheimer’s Disease and wandered off from their home in Yong Peng, Johor, on May 23.

There have been sightings of the 1.6 m-tall old man but the reports always come in just a little too late.

Mr. Tan is constantly on the move.

By the time the family gets to where he was last seen, he has moved on.

The family is so desperate that they have set up a website and put out notices in all the major Malaysian newspapers.

In a full-page notice in the New Straits Times, the family wrote: “We wish all fathers a Happy Father’s Day on June 18 but we may be unable to do so for our father because he has been missing since May 23.”

They have also appealed to everyone to keep an eye out for their dad, who worked as a timber logger and retired at the age of 70.

Mr. Roger Tan, 38, one of the sons, told The New Paper on Sunday last night that this was the second time his father had gone missing.

Said Mr. Tan: “Unfortunately, my father is very fit. In 1998, he rode his 20-year-old bike to Malacca, which is at least a two-hour drive. That was in the middle of the night.

“A kind Samaritan put him in a cab which dropped him off at Yong Peng bus station two nights later.”

Because of this incident, the family took away his motorcycle.

Mr. Tan said: “For two years, he has been walking around. People give him lifts.”

“He walks around Yong Peng town two to three times a day, leaving at 2.30pm and returning by 6 pm.”

“We wanted him to stop, so we locked the gates, but he used a ladder to climb out.”

“My poor mother had to open the gates for him because she was so scared he would fall off.”

His mother, Madam Swee Mei, 76, has been so worried that she cries all day.

Mr Roger Tan has five sisters and an elder brother.

He said they are not rich.

The money spent on the advertisements was from their own pockets. Some were contributed by friends.

He said: “We were in a serious dilemma. People think we are very rich. But we had financial help from some well-wishers.”

Since the notices started appearing in the papers on May 28, kind wishes have poured in.

Some well-wishers even set a web-site for the family at

So far, more than 4,000 people have logged into the site.

Now, they can only pray and wait.

“Said Mr Tan: “You only have one father. When you eat, you wonder what he is eating.” “This is worse than death. I don’t know whether he is alive or dead.”

Mr Roger Tan is convinced that his father is trying to find his way back to them.

But because he suffers from Alzheimer’s and dementia, he cannot remember his way home.

* On May 27, the elderly Mr Tan was seen on a bus from Johor Air Hitam.

*On June 13 at 6 pm, he was spotted at the Yong Peng Express bus station.

A bus driver said Mr Tan hopped onto his bus and sat quietly.

He did not have a ticket. The bus journey to the Larkin Bus Terminal in Johor Bahru took an hour.

The family is worried because he hops from one bus to another with ease.

And without anyone stopping him, he may now be anywhere in Malaysia.

Saturday, June 17, 2000

Family pines for missing 87-year-old dad

The Star

By Mazwin Nik Anis

Tan..has been missing since May 23.JOHOR BAHRU: Nothing will be sweeter for lawyer Roger Tan come Fathers Day tomorrow than to be reunited with his missing 87-year-old dad.

Tan Sue Yong has been missing since May 23 and his family have conducted an extensive search for him.

They have placed “missing persons” advertisements in all the English, Malay and Chinese newspapers.

“We have also put up posters in public places, sought help from the police, Rela, Rukun Tetangga and every other association we can think of.

“My family, especially my 76-year-old mother is extremely worried about is well-being and we have almost exhausted all avenues we can think of,” Roger said.

On May 23, the elder Tan, who suffers from dementia and Alzheimer’s disease, left his home in Lorong Enam, Yong Peng, for his routine daily walk in the afternoon but never came home.

This is the second time Tan has gone missing. In 1998 he took off on his old motorcycle and was found two days later in Malacca.